In this episode, I’m going to talk about “what is bawdy” and the current state of women empowerment groups that in reality, tear other women down behind closed doors. I want to change that mentality with the Bawdy Talk podcast.
I created the Face N Bawdy brand and the Bawdy Talk podcast because I wanted a safe place for women – women like me, who are unconventional. Women who are proud to be different, who think outside the box, who are powerful, and who are opinionated. And these days, probably most importantly, women who have been broken and are healing.
If you want to be empowered for who you are and who you’re not, despite your flaws and blunders this is episode is for you! Sit back and listen in!
- Happy to be able to touch other people with my story (00:55)
- Healing is… (02:28)
- You deserve to be happy (03:25)
- Women empowerment and feminist groups (06:06)
- Why I created Bawdy Talk (8:42)
- Let’s celebrate the diversity of women (10:19)
- The strength and willpower (11:34)
- Send love and support (13:27)
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00:00 I wanted to create the face and body and body talk because I wanted a safe place for women, women like me, women who are unconventional, different women who think outside the box, who are powerful and opinionated, women who have been broken and are healing and aren’t ashamed of their journey. Women who have made mistakes.
00:27 Hey girls. Hey guys. This is your uncensored behind the scenes look at what it takes to rise above in all areas of your life. If life has dealt you a shitty hand of cards, or if you feel like you need to level up, or if you just feel like the underdog, and you want to let your gifts flourish, well I’m here to show you how. I am your host Christine Mendoza and this is Bawdy Talk.
00:52 Hi Guys. Welcome to another episode of Bawdy Talk. First I want to say thank you and yes, I know I said thank you in the past episodes, but I’m a thanker, so just take it. I appreciate you guys so much and you don’t know how much it means to me. When I read a message and someone tells me that I’ve motivated them, inspire them, help them in any way. I just feel really happy that I’m able to connect with you guys and thank you. Thank you for the opportunity. And by all means, I have no self-proclaimed motivational speaker, life coach, Success Guru, blah blah, blah, blah. It’s just not me. And if people want to perceive me like that, that’s cool and they’re flattered. But I definitely do not have it altogether. Definitely not. I’m a human and I’m still learning too. And I’m just happy to be able to touch other people that resonate with my story, especially women.
01:49 And give an honest approach to getting over shit because not everybody wants to hear that fru-fru glittery pink clown bullshit. Like you can tell me all day look your eyes imagine the best version of you and being cool and then what? Okay, what’s next? And honestly, like I’m not trying to be funny, but it works for a lot of people. Yeah. Didn’t resonate with me. Can’t relate. I don’t really have the time to sit on someone’s imaginary unicorn and fly my ass to happy land. No, thank you. Healing to me is diving deep down into your own personal hell. The darkest part of your soul, where you’re storing all of that trauma and negativity and learning how to heal from it properly this time. Cause if you’re still storing something that triggers you or hurts you, you obviously didn’t heal from it the way you should have.
02:53 And you can go your whole life with the trauma that should be gone. You don’t need it carted around and let it affect you later on. So healing is messy. Healing is ugly. It’s depressing. Um, it’s painful, but it’s important because you can’t just sweep things under the rug. You’re human and you deserve to heal properly. So I don’t know everything. As I said, I don’t have it all together, but what I can offer is my own personal experiences, my mistakes, my triumphs, basically my story in hopes that it helps other people because you know, like all we can really do is be there for each other because I can’t heal for you. I can’t give you an exact blueprint on how to do it. All of that takes internal work and it’s hard, but it’s something that needs to be done because you deserve to be happy.
03:59 But it helps to know that someone out there has experienced similar situations and has found happiness. And that’s why I am here because I just want to be that person to um, show you that if I can do it, you definitely can do it. If not better. Who knows? But all I’m saying is you’re not alone. And if it takes me to have to bear my dirty laundry, my pain, my past, I will, because this is also very therapeutic for me. This whole process of me just talking about it is so healing because I’m not only being open with everything to myself and those closest to me, but I’m bearing it to the entire world for strangers to, to hear. And yeah, I know people probably judge or [inaudible] or like, oh my gosh, but that’s fine because this is my story. And if my story can help just two people, then I don’t care if the whole world knows my shit. Cause to be honest, I’ve been modeling, as you guys all know, for 18 years I grew up on the Internet. So from 17 years old to present day at 36, I have had every ugly moment, awkward phase emblazoned on the Internet of this.
05:30 Most people don’t have 18 years worth of photos on the Internet, much less photos in lingerie, in a bikini with boobies out. Like I’ve already bared my image out there. I might as well keep it going and bare my soul. Just kidding. But you know, like fuck, it might as well help some people in the process. Right. So thank you so much for the opportunity and I’m very, very grateful to have you listen to me ranting. Okay, so what’s next? Woman empowerment and feminist groups. Amazing. I think all women should uplift each other, protect each other, inspire each other, motivate and help one another. However, I kind of noticed that a lot of women empowerment groups are still so very cliquey and judgy. You know, it’s like the whole point of being an empowerment group is to empower us as a whole. But I have noticed that if you don’t fit in with them and their particular group, then you are still treated like you don’t belong.
06:50 It’s like high school all over again. You still get judged and you can’t help but feel isolated because although these types of groups want to claim that they’re empowering women as a whole, they don’t tell you that. No. Where does empowering women like us and they judge you still based on your looks, your status, your job, your income, what you drive, who you know to color your skin, where you’re from, what your religion is or your beliefs. Like. It’s crazy because that’s not empowering us as a whole. That’s being a fucking bitch. Okay. And now no thank you, and I say this because I have noticed that there are a lot of them. Um, cause I’m always down to meet people, especially other moms. I’m always down to join women empowerment organizations, talk to other women and you know, just be a part of it. Because I love being a woman. I love other women and I, to be honest, I’d never really had the support growing up. So now that I feel empowered with myself, I want to go and help and support other women too. Why not? So, you know, on my quest to find women, women empowerment groups that we can go and just screaming like, oh my God, it was so ugly. So sorry.
08:26 Okay. So I’m sorry, I probably scared you cause I scared myself and uh, yeah, I’m a huge fan of Lucy lawless, Xena the warrior princess. So that was that little awkward screen moment. Like I was saying, even with Facebook, they have all these mommy groups, fitness, beauty woman empowerment, basically everything surrounding women supporting each other. And I’m a member in of these groups and these are closed groups so you have to be accepted in and and whatever blah. And one thing I’ve noticed is that so many women will go and bash each other just because they didn’t agree on a post or a comment. And I just think it’s sad because we all have these Siegel and join these groups to find some kind of friendship and support and people are just not really about that life. So I wanted to create face and body and bawdy talk because I wanted a safe place for women, women like me, women who are unconventional, different women who think outside the box, who are powerful and opinionated, women who have been broken and are healing and aren’t ashamed of their journey.
09:49 Women who have made mistakes and own up to their shit, to the women who were victims and became Victor’s because they fought back and they became stronger. Basically women that don’t fit the mold that society tries to shove down our throats of what a woman is supposed to be. There is no one size fits all on a woman is supposed to be like, we’re all different. And I think it’s important to celebrate that and especially celebrate the people who have been through a lot, who have been broken, who have been shunned by society, who like don’t really have that kind of support because the people around them are telling them that they’re not good enough and they don’t belong. And it’s really sad because women need to be more compassionate with each other. We talk about women empowerment. Yeah, yeah. But I don’t really see a lot of it all the time and women shouldn’t sit around and judge other people because of how they live their life, what they look like, their job, their status, what they’ve been through, especially if you don’t know them.
11:04 So when you see somebody that has gone from a dark place and is trying to make progress and trying to heal or fix their situation and be better, when you judge someone like that without knowing them, you’re basically shitting on their progress progress that you should be doing for yourself because you’re shitting on somebody because you feel some type of way about yourself. It’s like work on yourself. Yeah. So I’m really excited to grow this project. I think it’s so important to create a safe place and a living environment for, for the underdog. The woman that, um, is broken and pain damaged, hurt, angry, sad, um, basically the woman, that people gave up on because they weren’t perfect to them, but they don’t realize it. These women are so much stronger because although that they’ve been through so much shit, they’re actually making the moves to heal and be better and work towards a future so they can be happy and in peace.
12:16 That’s strength. And so for those people that gave up on these types of women, you’re lost because it takes so much strength and willpower just to get up every morning. Knowing that you are going to heal today, you are going to try to be better and you’re determined to find peace. That takes a lot of strength. And I am so excited for so many of you guys that tell me about your progress and what you’re doing and how you’re healing. And I just want to say I’m so proud of you guys. I love you. Sounds corny, don’t even know each other but I do and I admire your strength and this is why I am so excited to be open about my journey because I’ve seen how it’s helped so many of you guys through yours and I feel very, very grateful. Yeah. So that is an in-depth look at the foundation of what face and body and the Bawdy Talk podcast is.
13:27 And we obviously have other topics that are a lot more lighthearted and fun. But I wanted you guys to know the heart and soul foundation of face and body is to send love and support and you know, create some, some normalcy in real-life issues all while creating acceptance and um, compassion for different walks of life. A different situations and different types of people because we’re all just trying to get through this thing called life in one piece. Right? So the fact that we can bond just by accepting and truly just loving one another and having a more open mind and open heart to other people, especially women to each other. I think that’s super important because I have a lot of women here that have been through a lot of shit that are listening. And I also have a lot of women that I haven’t been through as much and probably had a lot of different perception before.
14:39 I’ve had a lot of women that actually told me, wow, I just never really looked at it like that. And because of your podcasts and able to actually have more compassion for different people, and that makes me really happy as well. So yeah. So thank you for that. And yeah, I guess that’s it guys. I am so tired. I am ready for bed. I hope you guys have a good night. Good morning. Good afternoon. Whatever time it is on your end. I hope you’re having an amazing day. Alright. Okay. Bye. Talk to you later.
15:17 Thank you guys for listening to Bawdy Talk. Now girls and guys, do you want to join me and other women on a mission to take over the world, and look cute doing it? Then join us on the Bawdy Talk Facebook group. Just head over to Facebook and type in Bawdy Talk. And when you join you will get instant access to the Bawdy toolbox, which has all the essentials to level up in the three Bs in life, and that’s beauty, body, and business. Now, this is the only place you will get access. So, be sure to join the Bawdy Talk Facebook group now, not just now, but literally yesterday, and join me next time on Bawdy Talk. Thank you